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I have been seeing a lovely guy for about 6 months now. All going fantastically well, exclusive and definitely serious, I've never been happier, though we haven't quite got to the "I love you" stage yet. Thing is, I'm 38 this month and he's just turned We met on a night out through mutual friends and hooked up before he knew how old Years was most people tend to underestimate my true age by a few years, lucky mebut he knew before he asked me out on a second date.
I tend to think that in your thirties that sort of age difference doesn't really matter from a compatibility point of view- I certainly don't have any concerns about him not being mature enough. Don't want to spook him by discussing it yet, but he's bound to have realised that. I haven't personally, but my grandmother was older than my grandfather by about 4 years - they met as teenagers. They were very, very happily married for nearly 60 years!
I am nearly 4 years older than DH. We've been together 16 years and are very happy. Only 2 people have commented on the age difference - MIL and a bitchy friend. Now ex friend but not because of that. I don't think it matters.
We've actually just click for source children. I have 2 whom he adores they're dating and 11and he has none. He's not sure if he ever wants any. I've told him that if he decides before I'm 35 that he might like one, I would consider it.
I'm happy with my lot, tbh, but I don't think it would be fair of me to say, "Nope, I've had my children, so I'm done now. Don't think that will happen, though.
It does worry me dating bit that he'll decide when he's in his 30s that he actually does want children and that it's a dealbreaker for him. That will be the end of us, and it would be very sad. But at the moment, things are awesome and neither of us have ever been happier. At first I didn't take him seriously because of the age gap, and made it clear fairly early on that as a woman in my thirties I older looking for a life partner and ultimately marriage and probably kids I thought that if that didn't scare him off, nothing would!
He see more that if that developed between us it would be a years thing and he'd love to find out. The only thing I would say is that DH had done a LOT of living before we met, had had plenty of dating, travelled, crashed about and had adventures. He had a level of maturity beyond his years at 25 in most ways, anyway and was ready for commitment. OP do you have a sense that your DP wants the same things as you?
Don't be afraid to talk about what matters most to you, older are allowed! Log in to update your newsletter preferences. I don't think five years is a big deal at all. Most of my single friends tend to date men at least five years younger than they are. Lucky biatches. An age difference question. Now there's old! There's an age gap! Mind you, there's longer than that on here I'm sure.
Seriously, doesn't matter, didn't matter to ME. But I'm not you. And that must be the point. I got preggers while I was on the pill, so a "mistake" if you will. Moral is: beware of not really being psychologically desperate to have children.
Then had another one, all dandy.
They have a different perspective
At 41, so if you were me I'd say you had plenty of time at 38, but you're not me Sorry, bonkers day at work, am on an adrenaline high atm. Thanks for all the encouraging replies. Source may drop the years hint about not being broody as he probably thinks that I must be. Six months or so more can't make all that much difference in the fertility stakes after all, can it? Would be a shame to frighten him off with theoreticals when we could just keep enjoying ourselves and get to years point where that sort of discussion about the future comes naturally.
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Another colleague is excatly 10 years younger than his partner. She is woman and he is is 28 and they have been go here for 10years.
My mum's about 5yrs older than my dad. They've been married for nearly 40 years. It matters not :. We're now married and expecting our first this year I'm now 32, dating We don't hardly notice the age gap, it's only when I say something like "Do you remember Rentaghost?
But it is really slight, and SO unimportant. Why not just keep low key about it until you're sure he's serious? Or even better get it out of the way and see how years land lies? You have to be honest with yourself as well and think 'how long would I wait'? I think men of that age dating women of your age are not stupid - they know the conversations coming sooner or later Mum quite a bit older than dad!
They didn't find out until they had been together for quite a long while. They moved in the same social circle and worked at the same place it didn't occur to them to ask how old the other was!!
Same age difference here. It did rather force the children issue though. I had never particularly wanted children. DH had always assumed he would have them. Anyway we dating married when Older was 38 and had two DCs within 3 yrs.
It took a bit of getting my head around I resented his assumption that really I must have wanted to have children as I had link really got to that woman as a reality in my thinking, but it was a bit of a deal breaker otherwise. Anyway - I am very glad I did.
Upahill, that's very funny about your Mum and Dad! Redbedhead, thanks too. Wouldn't be a lie about not being broody though, I really am not. However Woman like kids one day so am only thinking pragmatically because of my age. If I was still under 35 I wouldn't worry about this at all. We met when I was 34 and he was The subject was only ever skirted about really, but I think not properly discussed because we were making assumptions about each other dangerous So I suppose when it got to the getting married stage we had to talk about it properly.
I said I would give it a try but not make a big deal about it if it didn't happen Obviously got pregnant within a couple of months of giving it a woman. It was not unwelcome to me, but neither was it a much desired state of affairs! Took me ages to come round to the idea that this was actually happening older me. However, I did do it all again and I can't imagine life without the DSs now.
I am immensely proud of them. I met my dh when I was 30 alana hookup therapy he was We had our ds when I was 32 and he was We are now 38 and 31, so I obviously don't think an age gap is a problem!
I did wonder if his family would be bothered by it, as his youngest sister is now only 21 so technically I am old enough to be her mum but they have always been lovely. Dh was 20 when we met.
I was 23 and had a 5 year old. I was his first girlfriend. It was him that wanted marriage and babies as soon as possible but I wanted to wait a bit. We married 3 years later and had 2 more dcs together after that. Could be he wants to make babies just as much as you do! Its not important, mostly, in my humble opinion.