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Dating as an Asian man in America is, to put it simply, not fun. Asian men do the absolute worst on dating apps. Other research has also confirmed the bias against Asian men on dating apps. And it made me feel invisible every single day. I went to college in the Midwest, where I would argue that whiteness dating valued even more highly than it is in other parts of the country.

I could walk into a party dressed in a Gucci tuxedo, telling a witty story about my good friend the Dalai Lama; if I was standing next to jadea onlyfans tall, bearded white guy in ripped cargo shorts, all the eyeballs in the room would drift toward him and away from me.

Now, look, not everyone is racist, and I had my fair share of dates. And yes, dating is fraught for everyone. When I think of invisibility, I think of the general American public viewing Asian men as undesirable, bound to be quiet accountants and nerdy IT techs, but never blustering cowboys or swashbuckling archaeologists, all of which bleeds back over into casting decisions that go into making more media that reinforces the same stereotypes, and the cycle repeats itself.

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I spent so much guy my younger years trying to avoid anything that made me look, sound, or feel more Asian. IE 11 is not american.

For an optimal experience visit our site on another browser. Skip to Content. Today Logo. Share this —. Follow today. By Mike Cabellon. The author when he was younger.

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