And here I am a self-confessed introverted serial monogamist — waiting for my phone to tick over to 7pm so I could see what all the fuss is about — Speed Dating on Bumble. I met a girl the other week who married dating of her Bumble dates which other than making me giddy with the thrill of a success story, it also solidified my thoughts that I should probably download the app and give it a go.
Again, speed dating brings up mental images of 90s powersuits crammed in a dimly lit bar trying desperately to not check this out conversation with the mention dating sweaty palms and an overpowering scent of Giorgio Armani.
Bring your bar back up to where it belongs
Safe to say, a healthy dose of hesitancy. Two thrills for the price of one! Yes — three minutes. According to my sources in the big wide world, three minutes is standard even in real life speed dating which is a truly horrifying thought. After my seconds in heaven expire, a small picture of the person is revealed along with their name and age. At that point, once you have a face, name and age you can decide if you bumble to keep chatting. If you reject the norms of dating apps being surface level check this out this is for you.
Make the next move
Anyway, the hour continues! I chat with different people and can stop whenever I like. Everyone knows Bumble is the app where women make the first move and I found this app design empowers you to get comfortable taking agency for your own decisions. I had only had the app for a few days prior to road-testing the speed dating portion and somehow still felt weird about striking up conversation behind a virtual wall. If online dating stresses you out, or you just got out of a long-term relationship or have never chatted to anyone on an app — I highly, highly recommend speed dating as a way to dip a toe into the world of digital romance.
Grab a friend for emotional support even better — you could both be speed bumble at the same time buy some snacks and make an evening of it. Speed Dating however, was fun, fast and honestly, a laugh.
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It made me associate being on a dating app with playfulness again. So if you have dating burnout and have forgotten how to let yourself have fun, the solution is simple: chat to a bunch of strangers for an hour. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Currently you have JavaScript disabled. In order to post comments, please make sure JavaScript and Cookies are enabled, and visit web page dating page.
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In order to submit a comment to this post, please write this code along with your comment: cc7a45fdbda78ed Hit enter to search or ESC to close. Close Search. No Comments. This is what I learned: Fear is a Bandaid. Bumble it off. Use the prompts the app gives you. Use the prompts, trust me. Come prepared. It bumble sound odd but it takes the edge off dating if you ever panic they can help and make it fun again. Take control and ask questions that are a bit out of the box.
Go with your gut. A very wise therapist once told me that I should trust my gut, but also test her. This is the biggest tip of all. Particularly if you are nervous, leave all the inhibitions at the door. My housemate and I took turns to drive the conversations, make jokes and mostly just have dating with the people we were chatting with. Making things playful leads to better conversations and better bumble. Maintain some level of mystique for three minutes. Some of the people I chatted to immediately wanted to know my age and my ethnicity — this sort of defeats the blind date bumble.
Have fun. Speed dating online though, is fun. And you deserve to have some fun. Subscribe to our Mailing List. Popular Articles.
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