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You never know what could happen. I could become ill before him. But I do think about the later years. Any advice? No it really isn't. People on here will say they would only ever date someone a max of 4 years older or younger, which restricts them a lot. It's not like he's 30 years older. I saw my mum nurse my much older dad. Log in to update your newsletter preferences. Not for me. I older don't fancy men that much older.

And I'm not being an old age nurse for anyone new. I would have done for my ex H as we met when we were young and have a lot of history. He chose to leave. There's no way I would go into a situation like that now at the age of 47 me I'd go no older than 55 max or stay single. I dated a man 14 "older" older than me when I was younger, me 24, him I would think of an almost 70 year old of being almost a different generation and it would only get more pronounced.

It is too much. I don't really get these points about needing to care for an older partner - I don't see how caring for my 80 year old husband when I'm 60 would be worse than having to do it if I was 80 as well? I mentioned previously that my mum had "older" care dating visit web page dad.

My mum remarried someone with an identical age gap.

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Everything was fine until he got dementia and she nursed older for seven years. She had no life older most of those seven years. Obviously, you never know what's going to happen but that is too big a gap when he gets old. Are You ready to be a nurse to this man? Only proceed if you see yourself nursing him etc in the next few years. He might be fit now but that could change sooner than you expect! I don't think that's a massive age gap at those ages.

I used to judge relationships between pretty young women and wealthy older men. Then, I was in one.

Its because most women of 60 have a lot of energy and zest for life. Wanting to travel, go on days and nights out, go hiking, play sports, basically make the most of their health, strength and freedom before age inevitability slows them down.

To have all these things severely restricted by the need to care a partner who himself got the opportunity to enjoy them 20 years earlier, is very harsh.

I suppose the question is, why are you dating him?

I older my husband at 26 now I'm 44 and he was 43 he's now 61so a 17 year age gap. I'm the one who has become older as a result of pregnancy with our now 14 year son and he cares for me The age difference has never been an issue. We are so dating in personality and tastes but we love the bones of each other and it just works.

He's the most amazing husband and father I don't think this is necessarily true. Its entirely possible to fall in love with someone who for whatever reason will prevent us getting the most from dating lives. Older gap relationships are an excellent example. The older person could be ideal in many ways, but is likely to restrict the younger person at dating stage. It might not matter to the older partner dating it should if they really love the younger!

But if they're not, it absolutely will matter. People looking to have these relationship are always encouraged to cling to the slim hope the older person 'might' dating be running marathons at 80, like their cousin's auntie's neighbour's grandad.

When really they should be thinking dating about how they'd really cope in the much more likely event he isn't. I have a friend who has a similar age gap and it's starting to show now he's just hit his 60s. He isn't in the europe free online dating health though, type 2 diabetic, needs knee replacements.

I think she's going to end up being a carer and isn't even article source yet. I think she's just onlyfans leaks bunni3png how restrictive it is. Having gone from dating a man 20 years older than me straight to a man 20 years younger….

Dating not the most important thing - but a big deal for me! I am Well, the difference is pretty obvious! If you are both 80 then presumably your 60s were spent being free and able to do whatever you wanted.

If he is 80 and you are 60 then your 60s are going to be spent caring for him. Having watched two older friends lose their sixties as carers to older husbands, I would older be very cautious. Just when they should be enjoying freedom, part time work or retiring, plenty of travel they were stuck at home looking after their increasingly infirm partners.

It was awful. There's a 17yr difference between me and dh, I'm 36 and he's Love him read article bits and couldn't care less if when we're older I have to look after him. I love him so the rest dating just noise. And like other posters have said, how do you know it won't be other way round?

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