I am in a committed and solid partnership of over 2 years. My partner still keeps in touch with their ex and maintains a close friendship with them. They have gotten better about letting me know when they spend time with their ex, but I still struggle with it.
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Plus, I continuously question to myself whether my partner still carries feelings for their ex. They, of course, deny any feelings other than friendship. How is one able to someone accept and support their partner's continued connection with an ex?
I usually need too friends space and time to salvage a friendship. Which leads me to my answer. Obviously there are factors that contribute to both. We are all guilty of lies of omission sometimes. And since you are still with this person more than a year later, I have to assume you believe that nothing is going on outside of your relationship with your partner. Do you trust them? All relationships require that monumental token, however intangible it may be.
Hanging on to that past betrayal will only hold your relationship back. So if you love and trust this person enough to stay with them, you must let go. Next, you have to ask yourself: are you okay with your partner their close with their ex going forward?
If you want to work towards being someone who is comfortable with the ex, then be as who and honest with your partner as possible.
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Maybe together you can come up with ways to make this easier for you. Perhaps that means meeting or spending time with the ex yourself. Maybe it means putting a click here on how much time they spend together. There are ways to build this into your lives that can hopefully make you more comfortable. It can take time, so be patient. On the other hand, if none of this works or sounds remotely appealing to you, then maybe the conversation with your partner needs to be more serious.
An ultimatum is never the answer.
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But you do want to make dating your partner is well aware of how hard this is for you. After all, they are YOUR partner now. This is YOUR relationship. I with that you and your partner can come to an agreement that leaves you both happy and safe and comfortable.
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