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Hi, Has anybody tried this? Any recommendations on sites? You need to be clear about what you want. Day to day we are just us and equal partners in our relationship. Dipping your toe in can be difficult. So tread carefully. If you do decide to go online, you can look somewhere like fetlife. But like meeting anyone online, you need to make your personal safety a priority.
Then there's the BDSM scene. While it may only involve painless, mild stuff; it usually doesn't. Ive seen a few women who enjoy submission during sex to a relatively mild degree in the context of the BDSM scene try hooking up with doms - and found out what the Dom expected was a lot more than they imagined, and they really dating not enjoy it.
In fact please click for source were scared during it and traumatised afterward. A lot of women seem to have a submissive side sexually - that doesn't mean we need or want to get into the extremes of the BDSM scene. Many men are very happy to include some restraining, mild bondage, spanking, dirty talk, mild domination etc in sex.
Also there is a great deal of abuse wrapped up in that scene, much of which women are too far into recognise as abuse until later. There's all the safe word, boundary, rules shit - which people can very easily override and site be too worried about the consequences for them. Many thanks for all of the advice! People have a romanticised, naive view of what it's like. Log in to update your newsletter preferences. Hi OP, I would recommend websites like Fetlife. Not to meet someone, but to find out about local munches as PP suggested. The people I met were really understanding and supportive.
They were also very protective of the newbies. I think before you get involved with someone you need to decide exactly what you want and what you don't want. Good luck. Sorry missed the last two words. Some people are naturals at this.
I've had bfs in the past who were terrible partners but did all those things really well. Kind of hope it's not always the case.
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Love my partner that I have now but ask him to do anything like this and it's so meh lol. It's harder than people are making out asking a regular dude to do this stuff as the really loving people don't want to hurt their partners and can be site awkward if it does not come naturally.
Site think the showing porn or material of some kind that you would like to happen is a good idea just might take a while but it's not worth throwing yourself at the whims of fetlife. It's harder than people are making out asking a regular dude to do this stuff as the really loving people don't want to hurt their partners.
I once met a bloke from fet life. We met in a pub for drinks. Had a great time. He's now my DH. Despite him being "the dom" he's a normal bloke.
He's currently downstairs with our two children cooking dinner while I'm in the bath. Just read your update OP. Maybe don't venture on to fet. It's not particularly just for teasing and tying up. Dom dabbled with this and a true Dom may be very kind outside of the "play" but may change significantly during. But if he understands your needs and wants he will be very careful about your feelings - while also working on your softer boundaries. It's a confusing thing if you're not too sure about it. I broke contact with my Dom as I stopped trusting him.
His personal life exposed some quite sexist beliefs that I couldn't accept. How ever I have another partner who is into BDSM and he is great - lovely dom kind and always asks permission about everything. He was ideal as an introduction. I'd actually say it's average. And it's not on the same planet as the BDSM scene. As for asking a 'regular' partner to do what op likes, ime most men will. Soms may not obviously, but I don't think op will have a big search to find one who will. I understand what people are saying here OP, but I wouldn't go out looking for a 'regular' guy to restrain you, if I was you.
If you're just looking for no "dating" fun, I would still look for someone with previous experience who knows what they dom doing. Even bondage can go wrong very quickly and I wouldn't play with it with anyone article source don't know and trust, even if that's as far as you want to take it.
First though, as pp have said, do loads and loads of research and don't take the same precautions when meeting someone online, take extra. I would still look for someone with previous experience who knows what they are doing.
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As a sub, handing over power to someone else and allowing them to tie you up and hit you involves a site of trust even if you really enjoy it! If they haven't got either of those, you shouldn't be shagging them in the first place.
I could be wrong but I get the impression op would be better doing this as part of her sex life with a partner, whom she has a loving, trusting, playful, familiar relationship with; not someone off the internet from a particular lifestyle group. If using plastic handcuffs from Anne Summers fine, but dating else has the risk of losing circulation- which can be quite horrendous and it wouldn't be the first time broken bones or fractures occurred. Scarfs or neck ties are not going to be comfortable and will probably cut OP, give friction burn, be hard to tie with enough restraint but so they can be removed quickly.
On top of this, when using restraints, role play dating sometimes happening and someone who isn't clued up on consent can very dating miss cues to stop. Of course it's better to do this with someone you love and trust, but if she dating going to dom someone off the Internet anyway, as apples said, some guy that watches dodgy porn isn't going to be a good candidate. Just wanted to add my tuppence here for what it's worth. DP and I are Trying New Things after a bit of a drought and I've recently joined fetlife to look at the forum posts for ideas etc on advice from old threads dug up on here site much not for the dating side of the site - not our thing!
And I dating site for to say that in your position I would avoid it like the fucking plague!
I was waaaay out if my depth! As someone inexperienced in the BDSM scene I can't help but feel you'd be like a lamb to the slaughter opening yourself up to some of the people on there. I think friendly gatherings dating kinky inclined site are called Munches as mentioned above. Why not give one of those a go and see what you think it even better, someone more like-minded who will experiment with you on the same level. I think what you're looking for would be considered very tame and dom would be willing to give that a try within an already good relationship.
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