Craig :. Today we're going to be talking about my ex got serious with someone else right away. Talk about awful Margaret. Margaret :. If dating a non vegan broken up with isn't the worst thing to have them leave you for somebody else or date somebody new right afterwards. That just is like a thousand times worse. You're left with no self-esteem yeah.
It's not only on the your. It's in the basement. Especially if they said I don't want tell be in a relationship right now. And then three weeks later, they're in a relationship or three days later. It's brutal. And you know, I have to say, I just want to say this upfront, when you're going through it, it feels like that next person is going to replace you and they're going to get serious and they're going to be together forever.
And they're going off into the sunset together any day now. And I've been through that Margaret and you helped me see many, many years ago that it wasn't the case, even though I was absolutely convinced that it would be. Well I'm most people are, Oh, I know. She's she hooked up with this guy really fast. And this is it. Probably not. The reason that it looks like that is because in the beginning it's so exciting and new, and the other people are fantasizing about how wonderful this new person is going to be.
New people are always wonderful. And then, you know, several months later it usually falls apart. But that in that time it feels like it's never going to turn around there. That's it. We're done. We're over. And they're just getting more and more attached to me. They're not going to care about me. Their bond for me is gone. Talk about that. Margaret, the bond for me is gone. They're no longer attached to me.
Is that possible? No, it's really not. If you date someone with, for any length of time, you spend time with them, you live with them, you cook with them, you have sex with them. You don't forget that person in five minutes. It's just not human to be able to do it. It's the very rare person who is so attachment damaged that they could do that and say, Oh, well I'll just get another one. No, doesn't happen. Even though it feels like it should.
And there's always that ubiquitous third party who wants to tell you how great you're ex looks at the bar with the new guy, she looks really happy. She looks great physically. What "else" is possibly is relieved that she has finally broken up with you. Cause she felt like she had to.
Many times it doesn't last too long. Oh yeah. I wouldn't give it much.
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No, no, but it's what it feels like. I think to the person who's been abandoned to centrally, so. Oh, I had a short Instagram message today and I got an email coaching too, that we're going to get to. Dating I add one more thing? The other thing is you always think that the person never loved you. If she could do this to me, if we could be together for a i got the hookup 2 and now, you know, in less than three weeks, she's with this other guy, it means she never loved me.
No, it doesn't. People have to go cold in order to someone up when they feel they have to. So it doesn't mean that how are startled someone I say it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's true. I'm sorry.
That's okay. I asked people to today, before we started filming, if they would share any kind of success story they had in the DM to me and I pulled this one out, they said, hi, Craig I'm not trying to weasel my way out of paying for coaching.
I just want to thank you for helping me go through the breakup and giving me hope. I was always doing the work, but now I'm working even harder. I couldn't sleep for dating until a friend of mine recommended your channel. The videos calmed me down and made me go pursue what I can control. Thank you for for being true to the people and not a scam artist. We need more people like you and Margaret. Please click for source you for you guys.
All recommending us to friends and family. We always appreciate that you guys are willing to share us. And when your friends are struggling with their relationship, that you've put us, put them on our channel. We always appreciate that.
So thank you. You mean you're decent and have ethics. Imagine, it's nice to find people are decent and have it. What many of you guys don't work with is Margaret and I worked with low-income families for almost our entire career. And How did this because I was passionate about it. And because I knew I could be successful at it and could change breakups and the understanding of breakups. And right. And, and I always had to play, honestly, I always had the plan of bringing Margaret on board and that was always a part of what I was going to do when I started the channel.
She wasn't on board for a couple of years, right? Else about two years. And now the new coach has been training with us since last July. But what you don't know is she helped me do volumes one through 10 of the workbooks. Really, they look gorgeous and incredible because of her. And the very first day I started filming videos and recording videos, even before I launched the channel, we filmed two videos together.
So she has been in the background of this the your time. And maybe I will show you guys that video because I know there will be doubters out there, but you can actually, if I do launch it, you'll actually see the upload date was before anything had ever come out before.
She's fantastic. And we'll talk to you about the training that she's had, but she won't be doing any coachings anytime soon she will be training and she will be on video. So you guys get to know her, but you're gonna love her. We're not about that scam artists life. So this was an email coaching from a guy in his mid forties, dating tell woman in her late twenties. So he said, my ex broke up with me in early may.
After about 10 months saying there was no spark, but people with ulterior motives influenced her to break up with me. Said she or says he, or you don't know at this point, you don't know.
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No at this point, but it's certainly a red flag that either he's not sure. Or has this woman not individuated that she can make her own decisions. We continue to be friends with benefits until late June.