I split up with my ex a year ago and quickly started dating. I met someone nice, but within weeks I discovered that my ex and my best friend had started a relationship. When I found out, I felt a rage I had never experienced. There are rare instances when people establish a real craigslist tampa bay afterwards, but that requires a suitable cooling-off time first.

The real betrayal is that of your best friend. Honesty and trust are the foundations of friendship and she has effectively trashed both.

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The chances of maintaining a friendship with her is unlikely, particularly if she is still dating your ex. However, the forgiveness part is work that you must tackle, for your benefit. The more you do it, the better you get and the stronger you become. Try to take a few quiet moments from your day to reflect on the act of forgiveness, in all its forms. Think of people you would like to forgive your ex and your friendas well as those you might have hurt and who would like to forgive you. Maybe a girl you were unkind to in school, or someone you were dishonest with.

Maybe you are the person you need to forgive. Focus on forgiving only as much as you can. Even the tiniest amount makes a difference. It will be your heart, too.

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