Fast forward toand nowhere is this bias more obvious than on social media, specifically TikTok, and dating apps. Height the bias, many men will exaggerate or add a couple of inches to their height on their profile.
In one viral TikTok videouser samanthalea96 marks dating feet on a doorframe to fact-check the heights of her Hinge matches.
I'm short. Do I have to list my height in my dating profile?
Not surprisingly, many of the commenters — mostly men — had strong feelings about that. However, things may be looking up a bit, so to speak, when it comes to the stature-related stigma of shorter men, and dating them. The bias against shorter men has been well studied.
Taller men make more money and are perceived as being more competentonline leadersand more intelligent; one study found that even as early as kindergarten, shorter boys were perceived as less academically capable than their classmates. In a studyresearchers at the University of St. Andrews in Scotland found that height appeared to be correlated with the perception of masculinity. On the plus side, shorter men actually live longeron average, than their taller peers.
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Where exactly does the preference come from? One is cultural, including the predominantly Western expectations that reinforce the shorter woman—taller man dynamic, said Natalia Zhikharevaa clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles. This is especially true if passing as male is important to a trans man or masculine-identifying individual, said Height, who specializes in transgender care and counseling. Dating insecurities can, consciously or not, lead trans individuals into a self-sabotaging belief their lack of height will prevent any hope of a second date — a mindset that cis men can also have.
But when Bangi married her link and they began posting videos on social media, the hateful comments were unrelenting.
Height has always been a sticking point for men. The anxieties of modern dating only make it worse
Bangi now has every comment on her TikTok videos filtered and asks her husband or a friend to approve the comments; the online can be too much to bear. It suggests that a fixation on height can lead to toxic behavior and attitudes beyond the dating apps. In recent years especially during the pandemiconline platforms and dating dating have worked toward more personal authenticity, compatibility, and real-life interactions.
Yet, lurking within the algorithms is the risk of becoming too superficial, at least for some folks, Barnes said.
Why men lie about their height on dating apps
You still have an opportunity here to play in a smart and clever way or you have an opportunity to sit there and dwell on this to the point it consumes your whole identity. And then you self-sabotage yourself unconsciously every time you go out on a date.
Acceptance online working on what you can control can be a formula for success for those who try. Remember the woman who said any man shorter than her was looking for attention?
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