Background: on-off relationship with ex-gf for 7 months, ended by her in September over my drunken actions, I went NC and entered into counseling and have gotten my drinking under control, while she entered into a new relationship a month later with a younger guy she had been talking to while her and I were reconciling.

Been strict NC since I found that out, blocked her on everything. She's sent me a few meaningless texts here and there, a few butt dials, a long apology text about everything. I've been doing my best to move on. Ahhh, my anxiety is off the charts right now. She popped up asking me some question about some the of clothing of mine that she found and was wondering if I gotten it from her mutual friend. I replied that I hadn't had the chance yet, and she just okay and then opens up the can of worms I replied by saying that I'm indifferent now, and that I have no ill feelings towards her, and that I think it's best for us to live our separate lives and that I will talk to her when I'm ready.

She responds with a long, long message that said she still thinks about me every single day, never stopped liking me, still loved me after she ended things, hurts her everyday that she can't get closure to move on.

More stuff was said but that was the general gist of the conversation.

I said basically that I wasn't wanting to talk about this man AIM, that I will talk to her when I'm ready, and that this just isn't an appropriate conversation to be having. I don't even know where to go from here. I know it's the a reconciliatory message or anything. And would I want to get back together? Well, she has a boyfriend so not possible, plus right now I'm at a stage where I don't think I can be in a relationship, because I still am working on my imperfections to make sure I don't make the same mistakes I made in my previous relationships, especially with her.

I feel bad because I know she's upset, but I'm just not ready to talk to her. She has a boyfriend for about two months now, but still thinks of me every day and says that it kills her inside not to still be in touch with me.

Everything she did there was selfish. She just felt like getting that guilt off her chest and had no qualms about what it might do to you. You must move on. Don't talk to her again - this right here proves why. If she IMs you again or texts you or something, don't reply. Philos - I think you're right. I think I have to be selfish in this situation. I feel bad though, I do know that she just truly upset. Am I wrong for not wanting to talk to her? No, you're not wrong in how you feel. You've got to think about yourself and do what's best for you.

You don't owe her anything. I can fully understand why she broke up with you if you had issues with drinking and acting out because of it. However, her grand declarations. Younger she isn't over man then she is being very cruel to the man she is currently seeing. Calling you and telling you all of this is completely inappropriate and dating behaviour both to you and to the person she is seeing. Kudos to you for staying strong, working on your problems and resisting her. At least you are doing something to work on your problems Her inability to be alone is a huge problem, you hit the nail right on the head.

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I'd say also it's more of a need-for-attention thing. It's ridiculous. I feel bad for her boyfriend because he is only a freshman in college, while I'm graduating in a week.

He doesn't know any better and probably thinks he roped in a prize by being in a relationship with a pretty girl two years his senior.

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I'm not going to give her the time of day I think about it myself sometimes - my ex too started seeing someone new a week or two after dumping me after we had been living together. Could you imagine dating someone and finding out they were living with some guy 2 weeks ago? I don't know what guy it is, or how she met him, and last I checked in my last moment of weakness guide fake dating a demon spice level I checked her myspace almost 3 months ago she was still with him which would have made it at least 2 months they had been together by then.

My ex suffers from depression she was up to 80mg of prozac daily!

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I don't know if that guy had any idea what he was getting himself into. Same thing with my ex. He started dating me less than 2 months out of an 18 year relationship He led me to believe they were apart longer. Less than a month after our break-up he is now in a relationship with a woman he was friends with, who knew all about our relationship.

The need to not be alone is so strong in some people, younger need to move on right away so the don't have to deal with the emotions they have. The problem with this is at some point all these bombshell have see more come out and it usually doesn't come out the best way.

I had no idea what I was getting dropped with my ex and it took a toll on us and when things got rough he left. My ex has many emotional issues, and depression. Even though this woman was friends with him, she always had "feelings" for him, so I assume she is a bit blinded by what she wants to see. Just click for source was blinded as well.

I mean how can you get into a relationship with someone who less than a few weeks before was so in love with someone else and now they bombshell they are in love with you.

I hear you dating. My mind has been constantly thinking of her now since she IMed me last night.

The Younger Man I’m Dating Just Dropped a Bombshell. Nothing Could Have Prepared Me for This.

Imagine what I would be like if I actually had to talk to her face-to-face!? Good Lord, I'd be a wreck. October Monday at PM. All Activity Home Just had a bombshell dropped on me. Just had a bombshell dropped on me. Recommended Posts. Posted December 13, I'm just not ready to talk to her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options Philos Posted December 13, I'm sorry man.

Crazyaboutdogs Posted December 13, However, her grand declarations she still thinks about me every single day, never stopped liking me, still loved me after she ended things, hurts her everyday that she can't dropped closure to move on.

I was blinded as well I mean how can you get into a relationship with someone who less than a few weeks before was so in love with someone else and now they say they are in love with you. Part of me feels bad for her, the other part thinks she asking for it.

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