Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. I have been dating a guy I met on Tinder for two months.
Why is he still active on the dating app?
He is 33 and I am We have been on 11 dates so far. We started sleeping with each other on date 4. I know this because his location keeps updating. So if he goes away for a weekend etc, the location will change to wherever he is. Anyway - I mentioned the bumble situation to him the other day and said I have noticed he is still active on the app, and pointed out that I have put my app on pause.
You are not wrong at all! You can now get back on dating apps and find someone with integrity. Onwards and dating And good luck x. You're not wrong.
The guy I'm seeing is still using dating sites. What should I do?
I personally think, at the stage you're regularly sleeping together, unless stated otherwise, both people should assume it's exclusive. This is what I have always thought. Still reassured me to start with.
Why have tried messaging him again tonight and he has continued to ignore me. Log in to update your newsletter preferences. My BIL shags anything with a pulse. Yep the ignoring me just feels cruel.
Very true. OLD can be very anxiety inducing at times and I really only wanted validation and reassurance from him by bringing up this topicbut the opposite has happened unfortunately. I thought he was everything I was looking for, but the inability to have an adult conversation is pretty concerning. I'd send a message tomorrow confirming that things are over if he's ignoring you. The least he should be doing is discussing it, even if he does not agree that exclusivity should be assumed. In future, if you carry on OLD, don't assume anything.
I would always say before having sex, 'I don't want to sleep together yet site there is anyone else on the scene or if you are still looking. Where do you stand on that? I agree that if you are sleeping together and meeting friends and have both said you want a long term relationship then that would normally assume "site" are getting serious therefore exclusive.
OLD is a bit of a law unto itself though so it's best to aim for complete clarity until you know someone well. If he doesn't want to then that tells you something. ALL men on OLD will say this as you wouldn't have gone out with him if he was honest and said he was looking for regular sex and some companionship. I know when you're used to why honest with others, you expect them to be honest too but for site the majority are liars looking to get laid. The assumption is and still be once you meet someone that's it.
You don't have a back up that you're 'running' alongside your other half just in case you get bored. Said this before but this change in dating that people are trying to push in the past few years is just nasty and just another way society just gets crappier and crappier.
This has all come dating of the blue. Feel so disappointed and let down.
Part of me thought the logging into Bumble was part of his own insecurities. That he thought maybe I was still on the app too, so was doing the same as me. Unfortunately not! It's very clear it's over and that he was only after sex. Don't message him again, you already know it's done.
Maintain your dignity. It will just look desperate and pathetic to keep chasing him for a click here when you already know the answer.
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Meeting my friends, making an effort with them, planning dating dates. Texting me a lot every day and taking a real interest in me and what I have been doing still day. I would have thought he would have bailed out earlier than this if he was just after a hook up. However, you did bring up the topic and his reaction is very telling. Dump him. Please create an account or log in to access all these features. Sharing posts outside of Mumsnet does not disclose your username.
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Actually I saw he uploaded a new profile photo after 2 months. I ended up dumping him. Please create an account To comment on dating site thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. Join Mumsnet Log In. For desktop support.