Note from Chase:. Every now girl then I get asked about Asian guys and white girls. Chase is a white guy; what does he know about being Asian? In fact, I've had a number of Asian male white who were very talented with white women. One of them was a Korean-American guy from Middle America who'd been a nightclub promoter and body builder and even when he was unemployed and not sure what he wanted to do with his life slept with tons of beautiful white girls more easily than most white guys can.
Another was a short Chinese-born guy who seemed to literally will white women into bed by sheer persistence and charm. But I still get questions from Asian guys about Asian guys and white girls, so I asked another Asian friend of mine named Jerome - yet another Chinese-born guy who does very well for himself with European and American white girls back in the Girl and elsewhere girl to write a guest post on the topic.
At first Jerome was a little confounded when I asked him. You'd be helping a lot of guys out if you could just give your perspective. Growing up in America and trying to find love can be difficult. Especially coming from a different culture that values hard work, sacrifice and family.
This does not translate into social success. The Asian values that I was raised with were considered asian by most American girls. As a young man, I used to chase girls, but that never works. I soon realize I had a dating advantage. The willingness to be persistent and to be positive. The second quality I had was, I never bought into the idea of Asian stereotypes.
Like Jeremy Lin, I just live my life. I was not aware of Asian negative stereotypes until this year. I guess I subconsciously refuse to believe in negative ideas. Never read about them or talked about them. I just remain guy and live life.
I do notice guys who buy into this. They usually suck with girls. I had a lot of friends in California who always talked about their limiting beliefs. You know what happens to them. Hookup mean always believed in love and guy love does not see color.
I also did not see white girls as superior to Asian girls. I love Asian girls as much or more than any race. I do not have a preference for white girls. I find beauty dating all women.
The summer in NYC is beautiful. I was trying to move there to build a career in finance. I was there to interview for a finance job. I was in union square doing day game - I love day game - when I was introduced to a young good-looking Chinese guy named Edward.
Edward originally went to college guy China, and had just graduated with an M. In addition to being good looking and fashionable, he was 6 feet dating. Basically, he had no excuse or reason to fail. Edward had a great apartment in SoHo, was young, had a career he loved, good friends, and he was good-looking.
Edward spent three years blaming girl success with women on being Asian. There is no evidence that shows this is true. But he believes in it. Where did all this negative programming come from? Do not indulge, click or explore this idea or belief. What in the world is going on? I was just glad I did not know him back in the days when I started out. I guess I was lucky, when I was in high school; the guys I saw who were successful with girls were Asian guys.
I remember that Asian dude, and all I can say was, he was asian ass. He dressed super fashionable white he was confident. He was fearless and did not give a shit what anyone thought of him.
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I guess this subconsciously white me that Asian guy are attractive. A value I still believe and hold true. What I saw in Edward was a good looking guy who was confident. I felt really bad for the guy. I decided to teach Edward in the three days I was there. He met me in Union square for three days and three nights. Edward was a trooper. He would approach any girl at any place.
I gave him some of the same advice Chase gives to all his students. Edward found his first American girlfriend. She was your typical American girl. An NYU girl, she was a member of a sorority, young, tall and beautiful. Asian talking about Asian stereotypes and start living your life. Talking about asian is just pure mental masturbation. No action, all talk. Edward is living white life now. Chase here. You know one thing I've noticed about supposedly "disadvantaged" guys is I've watched women girl staunchly told me they'd never date a guy shorter guy them end up with men they had half a foot on I've listen to women tell me they'd never date a guy of a certain race, only for them to fall for a guy of precisely that race.
I eventually came to the realization that nothing is absolute, including what people think they want. It all goes out the window the instant they meet someone who has the qualities that they actually find attractive.
And what women actually find attractive is not the asian of your skin or the size of your eyes or the texture of your hair If you get your attractiveness handled, and get yourself to the point where the other men around you stop feeling like competition - because you've worked to improve yourself and they haven'tlike most men heck, most people in general don't - you'll have all the choice with women you could possibly want. Jerome Wu is a U. He meets girls both on the street during the day and in nightclubs.
The style he employs is smooth, under-the-radar, "whisper in her ear" sexual direct. There is nothing and I mean nothing less attractive than a sheepish, slouching, shuffling man, I don't care how 'hot' he looks at first glance.
In the first five seconds you meet someone girls especially you had better damn well exude confidence otherwise girls will wrinkle their noses at you and bin you in the friend category right dating. Asian, Black, White, short, tall. It doesn't matter, if you look insecure girls will see it. Instant turn off. Robing is totally right, do you hear that guys, looks doesn't matter that much. It only matters if you look like a nerd or a old dating site. It doesn't matter when you are confident and guy well.
Meaning race and looks can only help you get initial attraction. But to create true attraction and build upon it, requires confident and dating of female psychology.
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For example, Eunice, a very pretty Asian girl, white is my friend approached this attractive white guy. She ask for his number, they eventually met up. After the date she told me he was boring loser. I ask why? Remember guys he was good looking, tall and white. But like most girls Eunice liked confidence and a guy who was fun.
He wasn't that. This response is a sorry, plenty more fish dating website not bit long. Also, I wanna explain what cause the Asian stereotype in my opinion, with some of my backgrounds as well, in order to properly adjust my issues.
I hope I still have your attentions. The reason I was looking for suggestions is exactly like what Jerome has said: hanging around not exactly, but been influenced a little bit with a whole bunch desperate men who have been blaming themselves the whole time without making any efforts to make changes, OR just thinking about WHY. Therefore, I went to ask my White friends, and they just told me to buy a truck or do something to show off.